To train or not to train



Similar to our son except he has more hair and only uses a binky while sleeping…


For the last several months my son has been showing many signs of potty training readiness.  Pull-ups says the common signs include:

·         Pulling at a wet or dirty diaper

·         Hiding to pee or poop

·         Interest in others’ use of the potty, or copying their behavior

·         Having a dry diaper for a longer-than-usual time

·         Awakening dry from a nap

·         Telling you that they’re about to go, are going or have just gone in their diaper

My son has been showing 5 out of these 6 signs of potty training readiness.  We had the weekend trip to New York that we just got back from and did not want to introduce the potty or start potty training until after getting back.  My husband would be home with us on Labor Day so decided we would introduce the potty and follow our son’s lead of if to start potty training or not. 

We started the morning with introducing the little step-stool and toddler toilet seat cover.  After the third time he wanted to get on it he got frustrated and started crying; the step stool was a bit short for the toilet so he needed help getting onto the toilet.  Since he is so young we did not want to force it (but help continue his interest and motivation) we pulled out the training potty that he was able to get on and off of independently. 

He spent the day wanting to get on and off the training potty and even wanted to sit and try to use the potty.  By bedtime he sat for about 5-10 minutes before getting into his PJs.  Tuesday morning after he woke up he wanted to try to use the potty before getting dressed for the day.  He sat for a few minutes and used the potty!  We were so excited and felt confident that he would want to start potty training!

He went to “school” at daycare.  I let his teacher know that they could try to put him on the classroom toilet (it is toddler sized) but that he had gotten scared and frustrated on the toilet at home.  If he got scared to take him off and forget it for the rest of the day… I told her she could call me with any questions through the day… I got no calls and apparently she put him on at least 3 times and told me at pick-up that he cried (as well as the other two toddlers starting to potty train).  When I got him home and sit on the training potty he was absolutely terrified!  He refused to sit on the training potty the rest of the evening.

This morning my husband and I wrote a note telling the daycare to completely discontinue potty training at daycare… We would work on getting his confidence back and let daycare know once he graduates up from using the training potty to the toddler toilet seat cover…

All of our hard work… completely gone… and now he is even more terrified than before we introduced the potty…

Least to say, we still have the training potty out because he is occasionally wanting to sit on it dressed… However, we are taking it REALLY slow now because we do not want him being scared.  Whenever it is time to change his diaper I quickly ask if he wants to sit on the training potty.  He will let me know: yes or no.  I then quickly ask if he wants his pants off; again he will let me know: yes or no… If he sits I give a lot of reinforcement; if he does not sit I just tell him to lay down to change his diaper and continue on with the routine.

It is going to be a long process… but he still has the interest so the training potty will not get put away because I do not want him thinking that he did anything wrong.  He got scared and we will help him get past this fear…


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